Category Archives: Same-sex wedding

Awed by Joy Generated by My Third Marriage to the Same Woman (and a Personal Primer on Marriage Equality)


On New Year’s Day, my wife Eileen and I received so many congratulations and expressions of good will that I felt like we had just gotten married.   In fact, we had – and for the third time, no less.  We’d … Continue reading

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Inviting Our Parents To Our Wedding, Even After They’re Gone


Weddings are one of those occasions when you really want your loved ones to be there.  You want them to witness your happiness and (hopefully) share theirs with you.  You may also want them to participate, to demonstrate their support … Continue reading

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Gay Honeymooners Are Welcomed Across America


The day after our wedding, my Prius sat parked on the street in front of my house, sporting a “Just Married” sticker on the window and a bevy of pink and white balloons filling up the inside.  I wondered what … Continue reading

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Flora’s Elegant Wedding Rebuff


We live in a diverse world.  And, when it comes to same-sex marriage, there are many detractors.   We even had one at our wedding.  That might be hard to believe considering how much everyone enjoyed themselves, and that we were … Continue reading

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Our Spirited Wedding: Delving into the Roots of Joy


For weeks and months after our wedding, our guests raved about it.  They told Eileen and me how much fun it was, and how happy everyone felt.  They told us it was full of joy, warmth, meaning and tradition; and … Continue reading

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Smashing the Wine Glass – the Pain, Part 2


This blog post is a continuation of the previous one.  If you haven’t read the first, see “Smashing the Wine Glass – the Angst, Part 1.” In spite of J’s teases, Eileen finally agreed to include the glass stomping ritual … Continue reading

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Smashing the Wine Glass, Part 1: the Angst


One of the most iconic and highly anticipated moments in a Jewish wedding is the ending.  Not because the ceremony is interminable (as a Passover seder seems), but because it implies the beginning of a long and happy relationship.  And, … Continue reading

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The Wedding Ring Miracle: A Sign and Wonder


At our wedding we didn’t have just two rings.  We had four.   You could say that we had one for each of our ring fingers.  Were we starting a new trend in wedding accoutrements?  No.  In fact, we were following … Continue reading

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An Invitation for Social Blunders


Issuing invitations is one aspect of wedding planning that can cause discomfort, conflict or – in our case – embarrassment.  The obvious question is:  who do we invite?  Really though, what it boils down to (especially to those who see … Continue reading

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In Which I Learn to “Say Yes to the Dress” *


*Note:  “Say Yes to the Dress” is a reality show on cable TV that follows the trials and tribulations of brides-to-be as they shop at New York City bridal salon – something else I learned along my wedding planning  journey.   … Continue reading

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